I think that what you are referring to here is a very specific privilege. This is the privilege where all of the authority figures in your life, all the adults in your family, all of the teachers and ministers, they have largely all been what they were supposed to be and were never abusive in any ways that people talked about. This is where the mindset that domestic abuse and violence are "private family matters" that are no one else's business.

This is exactly why I always say that domestic violence is EVERYONE's business. The less people talk about this type of thing, the harder it is to be believed when it happens to you AS WELL AS giving the abusers the impression that what they are doing "isn't that bad".

Also, the mindset that women do not have an equally weighted voice as witnesses. No woman in our society has reached adulthood without experiencing some sort of abuse or harassment. This sounds like hyperbole, but it isn't. If we haven't gotten it from some man in our lives, we have gotten it from women in our lives; this is the way our societal norms are set up. And its fucked up.

I can see how this would be a mindset. This is not a mindset I have ever been afforded, personally. It is not a privilege I have had.

I am glad that the #me too movement IS such a big thing right now. It is about damned time these people were brought to task for their bad behaviors. It is about damned time that tolerance for such behaviors ended.

But most importantly, it is about damned time that victims stopped having to bear the burden of accusations and reprisals for speaking out.

The best part about the father trying to attack the doctor, in my book, was the judge saying that she would not charge him with anything more than contempt of court.